I’m uncrossing my legs, trying to lean forward, feeling quick as a cat

My wife pointed out to me, after viewing me having a conversation with a friend in a coffee shop, how my body position—facing away from my friend, leg on knee, lack of eye contact—displayed a lack of engagement and interest. And she compared this to a satisfying conversation she’d had with a friend where they leaned toward each other across the table, made active eye contact, and jumped from subject to subject like two quick cats chasing a mouse carrying a wheel of cheese.

It made me wonder if this projection of aloofness is more apparent than I realize, not just in my conversations with friends, but of all my engagements and with people I’ve yet to connect with.

This is an attempt to uncross my legs, lean forward, growing quick as a mongoose defeating a cobra.

I’m dissatisfied with the overall conversation among blogs. I think we have a higher calling as blogger and writers and creatives and community engagers. I think we’re underachieving as a group and it’s time to shift the dynamics of the conversation so we’re less consumers and more creators, less sharers and more engagers, less anonymous and more accountable.

I’m a part of this as much (if not more for pointing it out, hold your calls for Hypocrite!) as you and it’s bothered me for some time now. For I’m disappointed in my own blogging attempts these past few weeks because I seem to care more how many people come visit rather than creating powerful stories and forming relationships.

Blogging is gifting and over time becomes sacrifice. There are millions of blogs, but it’s few compared to people in the world and few who do it well. Blogging as an art is rare, but possible. I guess this is what I want to inspire to. That a blog, a rich engaging blog can redeem, and “add to the stock of available reality.”

Thanks for everyone who shared their blog or their thoughts with me yesterday. It was moving seeing the raw and open hearts.

Now I want to read your most favorite blog you’ve ever written. I want to read it. It doesn’t have to be your best blog or your most popular, but your favorite.

You can post it here or email me the link at rossgale4 at gmail dot com.

Thanks and I can’t wait.

19 thoughts on “I’m uncrossing my legs, trying to lean forward, feeling quick as a cat

  1. I enjoyed reading this as i do all your posts, very engaging. I have so many posts ( about 140), so I will have to dig through and get back to you. One or two come to mind now but will dig through and share my fav later in the day. Thanks for stopping by my blog yesterday, well appreciated. Have a great Sunday!!!!

  2. An interesting enterprise – opening you up to a LOT of reading, potentially. I would love to find out which one is your favourite blog post amongst your own – which should I read first, to get to know the deepest, realest you?
    I found my own answer somewhat surprising. I was going to point you in the direction of a discussion of one of my favourite writers, a blog that had taken me a long time to plan, research and write. But in the end I chose a poem which took me next to no time to write, which is a straight cry from the heart. Which I wrote quite early on and so hardly anyone has read it, it sunk without trace in the archives.

  3. I find it is easy to skim blogs and have been trying to not do that as much. The other problem I have is knowing what to comment on. Sometimes the post is so moving, or so well-written that just saying, “Good job!” seems trite, even disrespectful. Also, I am a slow thinker and it can take me awhile to respond. By the time I have an idea of what I want to say I wonder if the blogger cares about that topic anymore.
    I liked this post! Gave me a lot to think about.

  4. everything you say is very true. part of the problem, for me, is reading too many. it’s hard to be engaged when the numbers get up there. i think i might start reading less, engaging more.

  5. I hear ya! I have really tried to connect in my everyday life and honestly read every post to which I subscribe. Honestly I don’t subscribe to everyone who subscribes to me. I love to go over to a new bloggers page and hit “Random Post”. I feel I connect better randomly seeing bits of their thought pattern. So feel free to randomize me too. Thanks for your sincerity. ~Regards, Dan

  6. I appreciate that you challenge what we do as bloggers to communicate at a deeper level, but I understand why people are a little skittish about privacy. In spite of that point, we should all be doing more than just filling space on pages because it is there and then anguishing because we know that we have sold our souls for a mess of literary pottage – that’s what people do on FB and Twitter, but in blogging we have the freedom to create something meaningful, However, what often happens is that people have the drive to write, but nothing to write ABOUT, yet feel a silent schoolmaster giving the order, “Write!”

    It serves us, and those who may choose to read what we write, to have a real life outside of our virtual world, something from which to draw, and if we don’t have one, it is no shame to *not* write for a time until we get one. It is then that we will begin to recognize our writer’s voice or find our imperative, and then we will know we have shared something of value, no matter how limited the potential audience. It doesn’t have to be earthshaking or profound, but it must be genuinely “us.” Your previous post quoting François Mauriac (https://rcgale.com/2012/05/16/my-younger-fellow-novelists-are-greatly-preoccupied-with-technique-they-seem-to-think-a-good-novel-ought-to-follow-certain-rules-imposed-from-outside/) in certain ways applies to to bloggers as well. If I may broadly paraphrase:…

    “The crisis of the blogger then, is metaphysical….Faith in God has been lost for many, along with the values faith postulates. The good is not bad, and the bad is not good. The collapse of the bloggers’ ability to write is due to the destruction of this fundamental concept: the awareness of good and evil. The language itself has been devalued and emptied of its meaning by this attack on conscience.”

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